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Interview with Sarah Durham Wilson

Founder and Creator of Do It Girl

Wild Woman | Writer | Priestess


VERONICA: Sarah, I want to start by thanking you for sharing yourself with us today and for all of the important work you are doing within the global community of women who are awakening to their authentic powerful selves! I would like to use this space to share with our readers a little more insight into your background, motivation, and mission with Do It Girl.

VERONICA: Can you describe how you define your project, Do It Girl? If a definition feels confining, feel free to use any way you wish to express the mission or message of Do It Girl for our readers.  

SARAH: Sure…The feminine is the dreamer, whom we need really badly, desperately, in the wasteland of the modern world, and the masculine is the do-er, which we also need really badly. When that action is aligned in love, that’s wholeness. When we balance our dreams with action, we become whole. It’s sort of a rally cry to wholeness, to saving yourself, to get out of bed and stand up for yourself and tell your story and go for your dreams and dive off the shore of normal, in this one short life. Say YES to the Hero’s journey again and again. May your adventure never end; and it’s supposed to be an adventure, this life. Not easy, but an adventure. When you look at life that way, to me, it makes a lot more sense. This isn't easy, but this IS an adventure. Oh, I’m facing a dragon! I must be brave! Oh I’m at a cliff! I must leap! Oh I need to save myself! I must do so! Joseph Campbell, who blueprinted the Hero’s journey so beautifully, says we’re not here to save the world, but ourselves, and in doing so, we save the world. Just keep saving yourself and you're saving the world. And of course with this planet at a crossroads, DOITGIRL’s rally cry is to the feminine, the energies of the feminine, the healing, compassion, the love, to rise and balance this earth that is screaming and sinking under the excessive masculine ego and separation that has plummeted this planet into war pollution violence hatred & fear. The Hero’s journey, or the Grail Quest, starts in the wasteland, with the unsuspecting hero rising and looking around and going, “Um, this is a sinking ship, someone needs to save us!” And no one else does, so he or she goes, “Shit, that must be me!” I must take action. And I think a lot of people are in that place now, of rising to take action. 

VERONICA: In a culture where girls and women are socialized to compete and compare themselves to one another, what steps do you believe we can take as a society to unify women and create a safe and healing community for women to support one another? 

SARAH: I think those really start in women’s circles (like the Coven Conversations I am currently hosting) when women have a safe container to share their stories and realize we all deeply share the same pain, human wounds of isolation, and we heal those wounds together… we become… sisters. We unify. It doesn’t happen overnight, but that’s why retreats and workshops, where you spend a significant amount of time healing together, are wonderful. But if you can't get to one or afford it, online circles are pretty amazing. This is the Mary Magdalene code of teaching. Sitting in a circle. Removing the Hierarchy. No one is above or below each other. Circles: the shape of the moon, the shape of the earth, the way the cycles of life move… And we hear each others stories, of loss of love, of broken childhoods, of pain and grief, and we realize we are not alone, but all one, and that my story is your story, and your story is mine. And if you're jealous of woman, alchemize that into inspiration. Thank you for showing me something I want to become. Thank you for the inspiration. Thank you for showing me where I am wounded, or where I am lacking in my life.

VERONICA: More specifically, how does your work with Do It Girl connect and unify women as sisters? What types of reminders do you use in your own life to stay connected not only to other women, but to yourself, and the earth as well? Are there any practical tips or direction you’d like to offer to our readers who are interested in creating these deeper shifts in their own lives?  

SARAH: This is a good question, because all too often it can feel like “work,” and I forget why I do this, why I started, which is the magic, remembering the magic. I don’t want to live in a world where there isn't magic. I actually just had to hire a really wonderful ritual designer named Emily Tepper to get me back into doing the "work" of magic; rituals and honoring the moon and self-care. Getting focused on what really matters to me, and what I really want, to believe in my own magic again, and the magic of the universe and, connection. I work with women all the time who just blow me away with their stories, so I feel really connected that way. And I have two very very close best friends with whom I sit on the phone every day and we just share, share, share. That's therapy to me. But I always tell people, start to align with and honor the moon phases. That's sort of witch 101 to getting in touch with your inner Goddess. Stop on the new and full moon to honor and release and set intentions. Sit outside in nature. I'm a solitary person so I don't gather with others spiritually unless for work, but some women love and need that connection. So I encourage everyone to start their own women's circles, they are a major revolution in healing the feminine and bringing women back together. 

VERONICA: After years of inspiration by your work, I recently read for the first time that you have struggled with Lyme disease. As someone who awakened to their life’s passion through healing I found this bit of personal information very touching. Did seeking out your own healing awaken the healer and leader within you? Would you consider Do It Girl the manifestation of your own healing process? 

SARAH: That’s sort of the whole premise for the Coven Conversations, this 13 week summit of 26 healers I’m hosting. I believe we do our greatest healing from our greatest wound. It’s really powerful, if you listen to these women’s stories, the wound that shaped them in childhood, the trauma of bullying, being sick when they were little, feeling disconnected, being abandoned, they heal that, then the gifts that they discover within themselves, buried like treasure, the self teachings, they offer those to the world. This is when the hero finds his healing grail and offers that healing to the planet.

This is really what the Hero's Journey is all about. Diving deep in our dark to find our gold, then offering that to the world. It’s pretty beautiful. I actually got sick after I woke up and started writing DOITGIRL, I would say Lyme has been more of a teacher to slow down and really nurture my body, which is all very feminine in nature, to be far more receptive. Chronic disease forces us to take a break from this masculine culture of GO-GO-GO-,DO-DO-DO, and instead we become far more balanced, by resting, and self nurturing and listening to and caring for our bodies; just like the moon has to go dark to go light again, just as we need winter for spring. We’re the same. We have to let things die so we can make space for the new to be reborn. We have to take time to recharge our light. Lyme, of late, has told me I need to be way more invested in my private personal life than my work in DOITGIRL, which I’ve sort of been birthing like a child for four or five years. And now it can walk on its own, and its time to care for me again.

VERONICA: I am very interested in the ways in which women feel and experience being connected with the earth. I was recently very moved by a comment you made that was something to the effect of, “The earth is sick, so why wouldn’t we be?” I thought about this for days and tucked it nicely into my personal philosophies about the current shifts and awareness rising on the planet. Can you expand a little more on this thought for our readers? 

SARAH: Sure, I mean I don’t think it’s a great leap to realize the flesh of our bodies is like the flesh of the earth. That we are aligned with the cycles of the earth and moon and they affect our bodies when we pay attention, or when our bodies make us pay attention. You know, we’re on fire in the summer, we start to wane in fall, we turn in and die a bit in winter, and we re-awaken in spring. And our wombs wax and wane with the moon in 28 day cycles like her.  We turn in during the dark of the moon and we're in our fullest expression in her full. We literally walk around with mini moons, inside of our bodies. And we can create life, just like HER, like Mother Nature. We’re sort of replicas of the earth, little creatrixes. And what we put into us either makes us healthy or sick. And like Nature’s wisdom , our bodies hold the same, the rhythm, the cycles, the intuition, if we listen. And the healthier we are, the healthier the earth is, and the sicker we are, the sicker the earth is. The earth gets sick, the people get sick. Look around, it’s everywhere. What does Chief Seattle say? Lots of good parables, but one is, you spit on the earth, you spit on yourself. We’re all one. It’s one web of deep connection. And we hold the earth’s pain body. I’m not happy all the time. I’m like the moon. I go dark, to go light again. And how the fuck would I be happy all the time with the state of the world? I feel her pain of pollution, and rape, and destruction, and extinction, and her tears beneath this vicious cycle of war we can’t seem to escape. It breaks my heart, as it should. I let it, and then I act, filled with that passion. I alchemize that grief into action. It’s my belief all women and men aligned with the earth feel her as well. I hear her. I hear her cries, and they break my fucking heart, but the good news is, the more your heart breaks, the bigger it gets. The more you wake, the more wisdom you receive and the more you can actually “DO” to help the planet.  But like the Dali Lama says, its not enough to just be compassionate, you have to act. That’s the balance, that’s the wholeness, that’s our feminine and masculine, married. But yeah, she’s diseased and poisoned and in pain, her children and creatures and her very flesh is dying. So I feel that. The earth is sick, why wouldn’t we be. So our work is always ourselves first; the inside before the outside. That leads me back to that question about jealousy. It’s not actually about HER, it’s about me. Our work is always on us, not the other. Anyway, so I heal myself, the earth of my body, to heal the world. Without my health, I can do nothing for her. And again, the Lyme slows me down to receive, and when I receive, when I am slow, I hear the greatest wisdom. Basically, it is time to slow down & heal ourselves & heal the earth. 

VERONICA: Is there anything else you would like to say to the women reading this interview, anything you feel called to share?  

SARAH: You’re your greatest healer. No one knows you or your own soul or heart or body better than you. Just take time to listen in. You’re it. You hold the key, no one else. There’s no one-way to live or be. Defy convention, be your own invention, and trust yourself like crazy. Your dream might not make sense to ANYONE else. Only you can see it right now. Lisa Nichols talks about that a lot. That’s ok, you’re going to be met with a lot of resistance when you’re doing something that’s never been done before. It’s going to make people uncomfortable. GOOD.  Keep going. And yes, we just want you to be happy. The world just wants you to be happy. When you are in your joy you are RIGHT where you are supposed to be & you are living your purpose.


    Sarah Durham Wilson

Sarah Durham Wilson is an artist, writer, & curator who began her career in New York City as a rock journalist.
After a whirlwind five years at Rolling Stone, Vh1, GQ, Vanity Fair, and interview magazines, she moved to Omaha, Nebraska for love, and eventually to Los Angeles, where a life of partying and sleepwalking left her burnt out, bereaved, & broken hearted. Sarah's seeking led her back to her childhood island of Martha's Vineyard, where she experienced a spiritual awakening. Studying yoga, energy healing, meditation & consciousness, she travelled to Hawaii, the Kripalu Center, Amrit Yoga Institute, and finally back to the island where her healing writing began to flourish under the pen name DOITGIRL.
She leads courses and retreats with Movement & Underworld Guide Shakti Sunfire, as well as her own courses on healing the self to heal the world while engaging in summits and international conversations which seek to heal & rise the feminine on the planet. She doesn't identify as a teacher, but a seeker who shares in circles. She believes once a woman moves inside of herself to heal her own body, she rises to heal the body of the world.



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